Reflections for Straight Christians
When thoroughly examining the Bible texts that are traditionally thought to be related to homosexuality, one can see that there is room for more than one understanding of the texts. These texts cannot be used to support an iron-clad condemnation of gay people, without ignoring the contextual, historical and translation difficulties and complexities of the texts. When one cannot be 100% sure the exact meaning of some of the texts in question, one must exercise extreme caution when applying these texts to the lives of gay people. Based strictly upon the Bible, there is no reason to condemn gay people!
The Bible is clear that we are not to judge people unto damnation. Matthew 5:22 Whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire. Those who slander others risk of being taken to court, but there is a part of the verse that is far more important than giving a warning about being taken to court. Both the King James Parallel Bible Commentary and the King James Study Bible indicate calling somebody a fool means making “bitter, damning statements” about hell to people. Those who damn others to hell may be in danger of hell themselves.
There is no room in a Christian’s life for damning people to hell. Homonegative Christians who damn gay people to hell are committing a very serious sin. They need to fall on their faces and repent for their sins against gay people and against God!
There is a cartoon
illustrating the evils the church has done to gay people as if those sins were actually done to Jesus Christ. The cartoon shows Jesus Christ on a cross. A Bible thumper is holding up his Bible, as he looks at Jesus. The sign above Jesus’ head reads, “AIDS, Homosexual, Faggot, Pervert, Sodomite.” In the cartoon, Jesus says, “Father forgive them! They know not what they do.”
Matthew 25:40 Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.
When we abuse gay people, call them names and condemn them, it is just as if we have done those things to God.
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Christians who struggle with intense anger against gay people or with intense fear of gay people are encouraged to read more about some theological factors that might be related to homophobia by clicking
The proper role of straight Christians is to love gay Christians and gay non-Christians. Christians are called to show love to God and to humanity. Love is not shown to humanity when insults are being hurled and people are being damned to hell.
The gospel is to go to the people of all nations. That includes gay people! In no way are gay people left out of the call to fellowship with God. Gay people will not be won to Christ by showering them with manure. Showering people with love is always more effective than showering them with manure. As God powerfully brings the gospel to the heart of the gay community, He may remove pastors and lay leaders from positions of church authority, because they have hurt His gay children.
Reflections for Gay People
The gospel applies to gay people. John 3:16, whosoever believeth, is an inclusive statement. Gay people are included in the call to fellowship with God.
Ephesians 1:4 to 5 (KJV) According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love: Having predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to himself, according to the good pleasure of his will.
Gay Christians were chosen by God before the world was created. God chose you before you were born, before the world existed, before you had any desire for another person of the same sex. Your sexual orientation was known by God when he chose you. He is not revoking His call, because you are gay.
Ephesians 1:10 to 14 (KJV) That in the dispensation of the fulness of times he might gather together in one all things in Christ, both which are in heaven, and which are on earth; [even] in him: In whom also we have obtained an inheritance, being predestinated according to the purpose of him who worketh all things after the counsel of his own will: That we should be to the praise of his glory, who first trusted in Christ. In whom ye also [trusted], after that ye heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation: in whom also after that ye believed, ye were sealed with that holy Spirit of promise, Which is the earnest of our inheritance until the redemption of the purchased possession, unto the praise of his glory.
Gay Christians are predestined by God. Their salvation is sealed by the Holy Spirit. God's seal is not a seal that is faulty. The seal does not fall off. One's sexual orientation does not undo the Spirit's work.
John 10:27 to 29 (KJV) My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me: And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any [man] pluck them out of my hand. My Father, which gave [them] me, is greater than all; and no [man] is able to pluck [them] out of my Father's hand.
You heard Jesus' voice. Because you heard Christ's voice, you are a Christian. You are in Christ's hands. Nobody can pluck you out of Jesus' hand. Salvation and eternal life are not in perile, because you are gay.
Ephesians 2:8 For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: [it is] the gift of God. We are saved by grace. Our salvation is a gift. The gift of salvation does not depend on changing one's sexual orientation. Trying to make change one's sexual orientation to be saved, is a work of the flesh. The Bible indicates we are not saved by works.
As a gay Christian, you are not an evil, awful, terrible person. You are a child of the king. You have value and worth, because you were redeemed and are a child of God.
You may choose to share your life with a same-sex partner. You may choose to live your Christian life without a partner. Try to act in harmony with your convictions, remembering the love and grace of God.
You may feel a special call upon your life. There are gay Christians who are moving earth for heaven’s sake. They are working to bring the healing and redemptive love of Christ to the nations. You can be one of God’s gay movers and shakers. As you step out to serve the Lord, you are not alone. First, God is with you. Second, there are many gay Christians actively serving the Lord. The links page of this web site lists over one gay Christian web sites that represent just a few of God's gay Christian leaders.
One thing you can do to start the healing process is to reclaim the Bible. Gay people have reclaimed the words that caused hurt. Fag and queer are words some gay people have claimed as their words. In the process, they have reduced the sting and the pain of the words and have taken a major step in the healing process. Gay Christians can reclaim the Bible. The Word of God belongs to gay Christians as much as it does to straight Christians. Claim the Bible as your book. Read the Bible. Become versed in the Bible and able to defend yourself from the Bible. As you reclaim the Bible, you will find the Bible cannot be used against you. What was once felt like a stinging enemy will become a companion, a friend and a source of protection.
Deal With Your Anger
Express your anger. Tell God you are angry. Let God know, if you are angry with Him for making you gay. Then forgive God. Tell God you have forgiven Him. A powerful prayer where a gay person forgave God can is found here. Forgive yourself for being gay. And ask God to help you forgive yourself. An example of a prayer of self forgiveness can be read by clicking here. Once you have forgiven yourself, the intense anger that has been directed against yourself and that has been hurting yourself can be reduced.
Promote a Climate of Love
As a gay Christian, you do not deserve to be abused in the name of God. When pastors and churches do not treat gay people with respect and love, action needs to be taken. Taking action means using your money, your service and your attendance as weapons to promote God’s love. In churches where abusive comments are the exception and not the rule, one may choose to write a short signed or unsigned note and place it in an offering envelope. The note can explain that the recent sermon or Sunday School comments did not do a good job of presenting the gospel to gay people and as a result the offerings you would normally give for the month are going to be given to another church. Should a church consistently take a mean-spirited approach to gay people, you may need to give serious consideration to resigning from all church jobs. By holding jobs in an abusive church, you are propping up that church and are silently aiding and abetting the abusers. Assisting those who spiritually abuse others is not appropriate for any Christian. In some churches, the spiritual and emotional atmosphere is dangerously bad for gay people. Gay and straight people attending those churches may want to consider finding a new church home. Spiritual growth does not when there is a high level of fear or pain. For your sake and for the sake of others, you need to leave churches where the spiritual and emotional environment is unhealthy.