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Prayer Forgiving Family

Gay, lesbian and bisexual children are often born into families that misunderstand homosexuality. The families of origin for gay children may have very negative views of homosexuality, because the parents may not know the causes of homosexuality or may misunderstand the Bible. Within the family, gay children can learn lessons that their parents, grandparents, brothers and sisters did not consciously teach. Those lessons can include self-rejection and self-hate. As a result, gay and bisexual children may internalize a lot of hatred and rejection.

Many families struggle to accept openly gay, lesbian and bisexual sons, daughters, brothers and sisters. Rejection or sharp words of condemnation spoken to family members who have come out can cause deep wounds. Families who want to accept a gay loved one may find the task very difficult, as they deal with painful emotions, and unlearn negative ideas and replace those ideas with positive, healthy ideas. Giving up the old ideas and actions and replacing them with new ideas and actions can require a lot of work and time. Dealing with the issue of homosexuality can take a family a long time.

Unfortunately, at a time when a gay son or daughter most needs love and acceptance, the family may be least able to give love and acceptance. The family may find their emotions are too strong and the loss of dreams is too painful to provide a healthy, healing environment.

For gay people to find healing, they need to find the courage to forgive those who have caused them pain. Children tend to grow up viewing their mothers and fathers as heros, because it seems like their parents have unlimited strength and wisdom, and can solve any problem. Compared to little children, parents have a lot of physical strength and understanding. Forgiving the fallen family heros is very difficult, because expectations were too high.

In this prayer, a gay person forgives the family for the painful and bad lessons learned at home.



Lord, I Forgive My Family

Do it again. You missed this part. Change this. Improve it.
The messages you gave me were to be perfect.
I wanted to be perfect, just like you wanted.
But the perfection you wanted was impossible for
me.

To the perfect church, you took me.
Your perfect church abuses people like
me.
Your perfect church I stopped attending.
I wanted to be perfect, just like you wanted.
But the perfection you wanted was impossible for
me.

To the perfect church's college, you sent me.
Your perfect college abuses people like
me.
I tried to love the college, but I could not.
I wanted to be perfect, just like you wanted.
But the perfection you wanted was impossible for
me.

To the perfect life style, in vain you guided me.
Angry language always surrounded the life style of those like
me.
A spouse and two kids I could not provide.
I wanted to be perfect, just like you wanted.
But the perfection you wanted was impossible for
me.

For making me want what I could not have.
For placing me in a church that abuses those like
me.
For making me afraid to be
me.
I forgive you.
Because that is the perfection God wanted for
me.